The two major obstacles that prevent us from succeeding in life are self-created. The first one is a doubt arising whether we can do it at all. Suppose you want to build a rocket and travel to space, but clearly, you aren't a rocket scientist. It is neither within your skill-set nor within your intellect to construct a rocket. This is a valid point, but for this very obvious reason, one needs to get in touch with themselves, understand themselves, and take action by taking lessons and learning new skills if so desired.
The other reason is a real bummer since we are totally unaware of it. Even though inventions and technology have proliferated, it seems like we have adopted a lifestyle devoid of entitlements. Despite a few sold paintings and two published books, I still wonder if I can call myself an artist or a writer. As a coach, I have often reflected whether I deserve to be working with people and giving them advice. Do I deserve to be a mom or a pet owner?
For many years, I did not think I was entitled to do any of the above. As a result of my upbringing and life circumstances, I have developed a strong self-deprecating attitude. Early in life, I've failed to impress my parents, later in life, I've failed in the eyes of people who were closest to me, and eventually, I started to see myself as a total loser. The idea of standing in front of people offering my support seemed like a huge misunderstanding. Life wasn't something I was qualified to comment on.
However, the Universe provided the dots and all I had to do was to connect them.
Because of those challenging circumstances and the people who've hurt me the most, I've learned how to navigate through life. Finally, I realized how proud I was of myself that I was able to stand on my own despite what I have been through. I am a strong individual, and my heart is still filled with enough love and compassion to share with the rest of the world. There are dozens of people I have known who have battled the same issues, feeling as if they aren't deserving of something. The sad news is, none of them were aware that they were feeling this way. Don't just consider this as something you don't need to deal with. Everyone has dreams and aspirations to do something extraordinary, but we tend to serve ourselves with excuses that prevent us from achieving our goals. The most common excuses are money, time, other people, and responsibilities. My message to all is this: "It's never about money, time, other people, or responsibilities." Someone who cares about us would do anything for you to achieve your dreams if they knew about them. Likewise, you would do the same for them. The only thing you need to do is speak up, make a plan, and go after it.
The real block to success is not the ability whether or not you can do it.
There is an attitude among us that we don't deserve to be in that place, and we don't even attempt. Whether we like it or not, we all have an inner critic that judges against us. This inner critic knows precisely our weaknesses, therefore he is the real bastard.
My challenge for you is to examine yourself deeply and speak with clarity and identify all the roadblocks that prevent us from achieving what we want... I would respectfully call them bullshit. I have a belief that every human being knows exactly what they would like to do for the rest of their lives and everyone knows the clarity they seek. This idea has never proved me wrong. Being right in my line of work doesn't matter, trust me. The concept may be appealing to some, but it isn't for me. My job is to get someone in a place where they will make a difference in the world, and I don't give a shit what it takes. Look inward once more, and try to uncover further clarity of what you would like to accomplish because I believe that deep down you know it already.
Look inside yourself for a moment and you will be amazed at the things that will appear. The situation might not be entirely clear when you start, but you will get the gist of it.
And finally, call out to your bullshit and prove it wrong.